Chikwela mu gym – ever experienced it? Most ladies probably have, except that in some cases it’s not always automatic that when a male stranger speaks with you he’s trying to get with you. I was exposed to a funny story this weekend when a good friend of mine shared his experience trying to be Mr. Nice Guy at the gym. Here’s what happened: A lady was working out in close proximity to him and he identified some technical flaws with how she was performing a certain exercise (please, don’t ask me why he was looking because I don’t know🤷♂️). He felt compelled to help out in a manner that he’d appreciate himself if he was doing something wrong so he approached with a friendly smile and attempted to guide her. Her response was negative and non-verbal. He said, and I quote - “Nick, she acted like I was trying to marry her!”😂 This is just one of many different interactions present in a gym setting, I'm sure many of you have your own story to tell about your experiences. I'd like to provide generic advice for gym goers in a bid to influence behavior.
What are the lessons from the story?
Gents, unless you’ve been introduced avoid adding your husky voice to conversations with females you don’t know in the form of advice. Mind your business because even with good intentions you’ll likely be misunderstood. There’s floor trainers on hand to guide women that need assistance. Additionally, a gym environment makes women a lot more self-conscious about their bodies so all your unsolicited advice and drill sergeant behavior negatively impacts the psyche of women. Respect boundaries and keep your boostele and other forms of encouragement for your goons.
Ladies, some of those men you like interacting with and pretending to need endless help from are people’s husbands. Gyms always have floor trainers available to help with anything that you need so drop the damsel in distress act and get help from the right people.
I’d love to be able to encourage you all to freely interact but mu Lusaka muno there’s too many wolves in sheep’s clothing. For women that can’t shake off ichibeleshi perhaps a women’s only gym such as Evolve Gym along Independence Avenue is something worth considering.
An environment full of strangers like a gym is always bound to attract ichibeleshi.